IN SEARCH OF A SOULMATE....
Victor
Hugo had said, “The supreme happiness of life consists in the conviction that
one is loved!” His words are very true– as human beings, all we yearn for is
love – from childhood, through adulthood, to old age, our hearts always seek
the love of another fellow being. And how beautiful is the feeling of being
loved – in the tender arms of mother to the soft kiss of a lover – everything
just revolves around the expression of loving one another. As children, loving
parents, relatives and siblings come naturally but as we grow up, we become
more practical, independent and rational – we develop difference of opinions with
our near ones and probably the only true love that remains is with our parents
and later, partners/spouses/soulmates. But how does the heart decide whom to
love and choose as a partner for a lifetime?
With the growing modernization,
changing laws and mindsets, as well as societal acceptance, the terms
boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife are considered to be gender-biased and
have begun to be replaced by more neutral terms like partners or spouses. The
famous “Alchemist” writer, Paulo
Coelho in another captivating work, Brida,
has mentioned that even if a person is married/engaged or committed to someone,
his/her heart always seeks its soulmate. He said that though we grow fond of
our committed partners and continue living with them blissfully, we never
really feel as satiated as we would with our soulmates. As Brida is a work of fiction, it has highlighted that if one comes across
his/her soulmate, they would recognize that person by a halo of light (that
would be visible only to the person concerned) around their heads. So how many
of us had seen halos around another person, like the times of Mahabharata or
Ramayana? The answer is definitely NO! But Paulo Coelho was not entirely wrong
in this depiction.
Bollywood movies have never failed
to represent this concept of “halo associated with a soulmate” in a majestic
manner – the wind blowing, flowers falling, hair flying etc. A lot of men and women
in their early 30s today are single; with the stressful life, they probably
never had the time to think about a soulmate. But then, the 2 questions still
remain – how do we find our soulmates? And most importantly, what if our
spouse/partner is NOT our soulmate? Stephen Chbosky has said, “We accept the
love we think we deserve.” So true are his words – as we yearn love all the
time, we accept and settle down with someone who shows love, care, affection,
compassion, and most importantly, respect to us. In the quest of getting love,
we lower down our expectations from our partners – but is it bad to do so? In
my opinion, NO! Because at the end of the day, if one is happy with his/her
partner/spouse and leading a blissful life, with occasional disturbances, it
should be considered as a big blessing.
Yes, we all are seeking our
soulmates – but in that desire, let’s not ruin something that we may already
have. As for my single friends out there – don’t give up! Continue searching
for your soulmate with a halo around his/her head – the person is sure to
encounter with you someday; after all, The Almighty has created all of us in
pairs!!
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